time vampires
you complain people are wasting your time. you don’t have time for this or that. and you say it again and again...and again—seems as though you really do have time for those you say are wasting it.
if someone really was truly wasting your time, why do you still talk to them? why do you still make an effort to have dinner? or make plans you know will just be broken or “inconveniently” rearranged.
if you know someone is going to irritate you, disrupt your peace, and you have the option to not ever talk/see them again but you do—you need to take a look at your ulterior motives. we can be addicted to the disruption of our peace as hard and impossible as it seems to accept that.
while we may not intentionally create opportunities for agitation (aka “that wasn’t my intention”) we totally set ourselves up though a series of small choices that, alone, may not make an impact...but the sum of all parts equals repetitive patterns of bullshit.
if you don’t have time for someone’s behavior, then stop making time for it. they’re not going to change. they’re not going to “get it.” you are the one who has to make the change because YOU are the one who has been disrupted and YOU are the one noticing.
are they really your friend if you’re speaking about them in this way? or is it you feel bad for wanting to “break up” with this person? if the latter is the case, in either way really, you need to find the deeper root for what your irritation is truly stemming from. what about this person is such a time suck? and what about them keeps you hooked? do you enjoy their drama like a soap opera? are you bored? or are you using them as a way to create reasons for you to then transfer that agitation to others around you.
“i can’t help you because i just spent all this time and energy with so and so.” ...but is that really true? or is there avoidance happening? anytime you make the choice to determine someone (even something) is a waste of time, pause and ask if it’s worth it then.
if you really don’t want someone in your life why do you care so much what happens to them when they go?
clean up. find peace. take out the trash.