who cares

why do you care what they think?

if you are so worried about what someone is going to say or do in response, then you need to look at how YOU truly feel about what it is you’re about to do. there’s a judgment you’re placing on yourself with that worry. that’s energy that could be better spent on yourself instead of feeding the vampires who are seeking that energy you’re bleeding.

are you low key embarrassed by what you’re offering? feeling obligated when you’d rather not? maybe there’s pressure because of someone else. at what point did someone else’s opinion become as equally important to you as your own fuckin opinion?

at what point did you decide that you needed to give someone that authority to veto your choices? you’re looking for an out. you’re looking for a reason to not do the thing you want to do. but why? some choices you just make—hands down with no questions asked. but then there are those times when you’re not sure.

maybe you’ve taken into account everyone else’s assumed reactions. maybe you know they’ll disapprove. why should that stop you? how is what you want wrong just because more people will think otherwise? how is that fair to you? just so that they’ll feel comfortable and you won’t have to feel bad for disrupting their peace in a way that may force them to have to make room for you? instead of you always having to make room for them?

i’m not here for that shit.

beat your own fucking drum. and dance like a fool while you’re at it!! no one else’s opinion of your choices matters. don’t give them the satisfaction, or yourself the out, for doing something that may be a little uncomfortable. don’t “save yourself” the trouble. GIVE yourself what you deserve—and werk for it!! take what you need!! and if they have something to say they can leave it in the suggestion box that you throw the fuck out without looking at it because guess what??

they’re ALWAYS going to do exactly what you need them to if provided the opportunity—to discourage you from taking the action you may be afraid of. ahh THEIR fear triggers YOUR fear of yourself.

so get curious. break through that fear hymen. it’s gonna hurt. but it’s hella fuckin worth it.