your work

how is it that you begin the work?

first, you must look to observe yourself. then you must hurdle the fear you’ll encounter. you may be afraid of the inner reality you have but perhaps don’t “own.” fearful of the overwhelming layers of all that lives in that unknown place. but fear doesn’t need to be feared. just as joy doesn’t need to be feared.

your job is to simply first learn to observe. to sit with what rises, honestly. to meet, what rises, with compassion.

when you do this you can open up to where (maybe) the fear is rising from. maybe all you can do is sit with it as you encounter it, physically, with your body. that’s okay too. as you experience your fear either physically or otherwise, with compassion and honesty, the qualities of it will change. and eventually the fear will ebb itself.

fear doesn’t want to be told what it is, how it should feel, or be named bad or threatening.

allowing yourself to face these fears directly instead of side-eying them with facade-level acceptance...this is where transformation lives. if you start to apply values or opinions of what’s rising up you aren’t observing—you are judging. not letting what is, be. pull back farther in this case, widen your perspective. your idealized self deserves its time to come forward too. it can show where underlying issues are taking root that asking to be brought to your conscious mind.

confusion can come from “voices” of those before us—parents, education, or religion. these offer you false and unreachable standards because they are not your true self—but you may have claimed as yours. learn to hear those thoughts but not identify with them. they are a part of your story but not you. any fears rising from your true self may be painful, yes, but will dissipate.

so quiet your mind, seriously stop commenting, and just observe. observe to transform.