your power

where does your power come from?

it seems many think it comes from the ability to control something—circumstances, people, or events. but to assert your power, authority, and focus over anything is not actually controlling it.

the only thing on this planet that you can control is yourself and your reactions.

how you choose to respond—power lives there. your power can’t be lost, or stolen, or truly given away. responding to circumstances in a way that “gives” your power away is a choice. maybe an unconscious choice, but it’s still a choice. when we think we’ve “given away” our power, thus left powerless, there’s nothing we can do. things are “out of our control.” is it really? or did you allow yourself to respond in an inferior way to circumstances that then allowed you to look innocent of all cause and blame?

you power is not an illusion.

to accept your power is also take on responsibility—even blame. so you continue to “give away” your power—relinquishing your responsibility to surrender yourself to whatever response the other person has their own control over...things will be their fault.

so when they do what you knew they would you get upset. why? that is where your “lost power” went—into a choice you made regardless of how you portray the story. you get called out on your shit and you get upset. why? it’s not your fault right? are you sure? or are you just afraid to accept the responsibility of your choices, even the unconscious ones?

seek to find how much influence you have in other people’s parts in your own story. you may be {unpleasantly} surprised at what you find. but you’ll also “find” your power too.