empathy vs compassion
controversial thoughts follow.
are you an empath? or are you playing victim?
i believe what most empaths are actually experiencing is not empathy. i think what most people who consider themselves empaths are feeling is actually compassion aka advanced sympathy.
✨COMPASSION✨ is sympathetic pity, sorrow, and concern for others misfortunes. and this is where most people live. this is why most people are drained. because we feel “so deeply” we then rely back on our ingrained patterns to create action or movement. but it isn’t about what you think they need to do or “if they could just...” that thinking is about YOU NOT THEM.
✨EMPATHY✨ is the ability to understand and share the feeling of others. this is something that nearly everyone on this planet is able to do. why? because we are all human. there is some foundational relationship between all of us, not to mention the psychic connection, that allows us each to “feel in” with everyone around us. for empathy to be effective, there can be no judgment, no advice, no action. simply silence, space, and vulnerability.
feeling feelings doesn’t mean it needs to affect you, drain you, give you a headache, keep you from going outside. if it does mean that for you, you need boundaries. if you are unable to have an interaction with “the public” because their feelings are triggering your own feelings, it’s not because you’re sensitive and their energies are bothering you to the extent you lock yourself up all clandestine like and preach about how sensitive you are. this is an excuse. it’s a way to keep you small and “safe.” their energies are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do—triggering the ever living shit out of you so that you can heal up your own mess. they are your mirror. you’re seeing your lack of discipline and boundaries. that’s no one else’s fault but yours. just like their emotional outburst that’s triggering you is on them.
you can’t keep blaming other people for your feelings. that’s some victim shit and we don’t have time for that.